Do you struggle to cope with angry outbursts from your child? If so, you are definitely not alone. For the last few weeks we have shared tips for managing these stressful moments and possibly even preventing some of them. We’ve covered strategies for releasing anger, discussed leading by example and taking a moment away from your child. This week we have our fifth and final tip.
This tip is more an expansion of tip two where we covered way to release and defuse anger. However, it’s important and worth expanding. There is a famous quote by John Lennon:
“When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.”
We all want to be happy. If we are happy and content, we feel good about ourselves and things slot into place. No one can totally avoid anger but, if we are content and feel our needs are met, we are much less prone to anger. So. Find those things your child REALLY loves and make sure they have the opportunity to do them as much as possible. Empower them. Help them to boost their confidence, reduce their frustrations and give them a natural and always available outlet. If that thing they love is physical, all the better. Keeping fit and active is so wonderful for us all. The released through physical activity boost mood and reduce stress, anxiety and anger. Obviously at Street Feet we can’t recommend dancing enough, for physical activity, social skills, confidence building and of course, improving dance skills too, but there are so many activities to try! Athletics, yoga, gymnastics, football, playing an instrument, painting… By giving your child the opportunity to indulge something they are good at and really enjoy you are giving them a gift for life. Something which is always there for them. Something which makes them feel good. Something which increases their happiness. And happiness? Well, how angry can you really get, if you’re happy? John Lennon was onto something…